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Confessions of a Professional People Watcher

NYC is an ideal destination for my favorite hobby— people watching. Whether you are on a bench at Central Park, or sipping a beer at a rooftop bar, there is no shortage of humans to observe.

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After sitting and watching countless man buns, sundresses, fedoras and everything in between, I stopped and wondered what was it about people watching that I loved so much.

So, here it is, the top reasons why people watching is the best hobby in the world…

Check yo’self before you wreck yo’self

It’s often been said that how we judge others is how we really judge ourselves. The things that I criticize the most, are the things that I am most self conscious about. People watching helps me to keep myself in check. When you actually sit there and watch someone take a selfie, it makes you think twice. 

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The Superficial Reasons 

Life is a fashion show and the world is your runway. It is so much fun to observe outfits & styles: the good, the bad & the ugly. Watching others sparks ideas for new hairstyles, placement for tattoos, or inspiration in ordering a different drink at the bar. Not to mention the excitement that can come from sparking conversation with the eye candy you were ogling. 

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Comedic Relief 

Some of the things you see are just downright amusing. Whether it’s overhearing an absurd conversation, or a ridiculous outfit choice, people watching can provide great entertainment. It can lead to material for a joke, story plot ideas or character development. 

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The Deeper Stuff

Curiosity will never kill this cat. I often drift away wondering what brings people to where they are, with who they’re with. It’s a hobby that can ignite a sense of self confidence or extreme insecurity. It can make me lose and gain faith in humanity all at once. The horror I feel when watching a little kid distracted from life on their iPad is instantly turned to joy when I see a gray haired couple sip beers together at the bar. People watching brings out the questions that are sometimes hard to ask, forcing you to think about things that you may not necessarily think about. It is a perfect time to practice skills of listening, observation, and reflection. 

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Next time you’re in a crowded public place, sit back and watch what’s going on around you. Take note to the things that stand out, because it can shed light on the things that you prioritize! 

Dying to Live, or Living to Die?

There are few things in life you can be sure of— like finding a Starbucks in every city, or hearing Uptown Funk on the radio. While these statements are most often correct, they are not certain. In life, there’s only one thing we can be certain of: we’re all going to die.

Weren’t expecting that, were ya? What’s with this sudden morbidity from someone who is usually so cheery and upbeat?

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The truth is, the acceptance of life and its guaranteed end are what pushed me to live a different way. Growing up, my life was restricted by anxiety. I was always worrying about something that was not guaranteed to ever happen. In fact, as they say, worrying is like praying for what you DON’T want!

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It was after reading “The Four Agreements” when I finally started seeing things for what they really are, rather than what I was afraid they may or may not be. One of the final chapters of the book spoke about accepting “The Angel of Death.”

“The angel of death comes to us and says, ‘You see everything that exists here is mine; it is not yours. Your house, your spouse, your children, your car, your career, your money–everything is mine and I can take it away when I want to, but for now you can use it.’ If we surrender to the angel of death we will be happy forever and ever. Why? Because the angel of death takes the past away in order to make it possible for life to continue… When are we going to live in the present? That is what the angel of death teaches us to do.” – Don Miguel Ruiz, The Four Agreements

None of us are making it out of here alive. I promise you that. So, while you’re here, what is it that you will do? What do you want to accomplish? What do you want to see? What kind of person do you want to be?

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There is no arguing with the angel of death. We are all guaranteed a visit. Instead of thinking about this fearfully, look at the world of opportunities that lie beneath.

The Dalai Lama has said, “If a problem is fixable, if a situation is such that you can do something about it, then there is no need to worry. If it’s not fixable, then there is no help in worrying. There is no benefit in worrying whatsoever.”

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Death is one of those “not-fixable” situations. Accepting it does not mean to live recklessly. The purpose of accepting your eventual demise is to free yourself of that heavy, dark, raincloud called “worry.”

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Many of our goals, hopes and dreams are married to “somedays”, “bucket lists” and “maybe tomorrows.” The thing about the angel of death; she work on her own schedule, not yours. Those “somedays” may be nevers. So if there is something your heart yearns for, get Out There and make it happen!

California Dreaming: Turning a Dream into a Reality!

Two months ago, I packed up my bags and flew across the country. I had no one to meet. No classes to attend. No interview to prepare for. I had the love and support of my friends and family, but was met with a lot of raised eyebrows when asked what my plan was. Plan? My plan was to figure it out  as I went along…

Taking this trip was the best thing I’ve ever done for myself. I spent 22 years of my life living for other people. Family. Friends. Loved ones. People I hardly knew but didn’t want to let down. 23 was going to be different. This was the year I realized that the only person I can rely on 100% of the time, is me. 

I hate when people tell me that I’m lucky, because luck has nothing to do with it. I made things happen for myself. I set a goal, listed the steps of how to achieve this goal, and worked for it with a smile on my face. There is no magic wand I waved to make this happen… just good old fashion dedication to make my dream a reality. 

In 9 weeks I did things that I never thought that I was capable of. Traveling solo ignites the confidence within that you need to push yourself further than your imagination has the capacity of reaching.

I’ve made friendships that will last a lifetime with people from all over the globe. I gained a fresher perspective for the world & my place in it, and a deeper respect for others who have also taken a leap of faith, gaining their wings along the way.

If there’s one thing I can say for certain after this trip, I will never stop traveling. As deep as my love for California is, my wanderlust is insatiable. There is just too much out there in the world. I have people to meet, places to see, meals to try, events to attend, and blogs to write about all of the above!

The most important lesson I have learned from this trip: Nothing Is Impossible. The only person getting in the way of what you want- is you! With this realization, the possibilities of what you can achieve are limitless! Don’t be afraid to get out therebecause outside of your comfort zone exists an incredible world.

What to do in Sunny San Diego…

This beautiful city easily made its way into my heart as a destination I’d visit over and over again. The consistently gorgeous weather allows for an open schedule to explore all of the beauty San Diego has to offer!

Where to go for: Salt Air


…the beach, duh! San Diego has about 70 miles of coastline to explore! If you’re looking for good surf, then head up to Swami’s in Encinitas. Want a young, party vibe? Then check out Pacific Beach & Mission Beach. The beach front bars along the boardwalk are great for mingling after a long day on the sand.

Where to go for: Family Fun!

The San Diego Zoo is great for all ages! The combination of attractions, animals, and beer vendors are superb! Make sure to set an entire day aside for this outing, because you won’t want to rush through any part of it!

Where to go for: a Romantic Sunset

There is no place more picturesque than the La Jolla Cliffs. Although, I believe photographs can hardly do this spot justice. Go with a loved one, to just go on your own, to breathe in the wonder that Mother Nature has given us.

Where to go for: Outdoor Exploration 

Balboa park: museums, gardens & cafes, oh my! This is another spot you should set aside an entire day for… and although this is where the zoo is located, there isn’t enough time in a single visit to truly enjoy both. The botanical gardens are nothing short of majestic, and the Spanish village is bursting with creativity! 

Where to go for: Historical Beauty

Where else but the historical landmark: Hotel Del Coronado! Visit the spot where Marilyn Monroe filmed the classic, “Some Like it Hot!” Even if you don’t stay overnight, it is a beautiful spot for a day-cation, where you can shop, eat, and lounge on a beautiful beach!

Where to go for: Nightlife

The Gaslamp District is always raging. There is something for everyone, regardless of your idea of an ideal night out on the town. If clubbing is your scene, check out Fluxx. Great DJs in a wild atmosphere is a recipe for success! Enjoy more of a bar scene? Go to The Shout House. This dueling piano bar is home of good drinks, awesome live music, lots of laughs & an all around great night out! 

Is Breaking Up Really Hard To Do? A Philosophy of Maturity… 

The prefix “ex” sounds so final, as if you’re disregarding someone eternally. 


Everything we do, everyone we meet, and every relationship we have is a learning experience. You learn what you like, and what you don’t. You learn about others, which in turn, teaches you a lot more about yourself.

The end of a relationship also marks the beginning of a new relationship… a relationship with yourself. You must learn to be truly happy alone before you can be happy with someone else. 

Break ups aren’t easy. Put simply, they suck. However, there is no reason for a complete termination of a relationship. Dating someone implies a great amount of love and respect. A genuine break up should be due to this same level of respect, and recognition of what is best for both parties. 

Fresh wounds make friendship after a romance difficult, but not impossible. With a mature understanding of why the relationship couldn’t last forever as it once was, something wonderful happens…

You will never stop caring for a person that you have loved, but love exists in all sorts of forms. A mature love can appreciate this newfound friendship, with a genuine happiness for the other person as both of you travel down your separate paths in life!